There are some things in my life that I know I can’t change, so I just accept them, for better or for worse. For instance, I don’t particularly enjoy being pregnant, but that doesn’t really matter. It’s the way things are, and I think that I’m finally just accepting it. I’m not trying to hide in my regular clothes, I’m not questioning my calling… I’m just walking the path of pregnancy. Makes me think of the ways our children sometimes fight and resist the inevitable. It doesn’t help anything for them to throw a fit at the prospect of taking a bath or going to bed. They’re going to have to submit and obey eventually anyway. In fact, it makes the whole process much more difficult if we have to take time out to discipline them and convince them to obey. How much better it is if they just obey without complaining, even if they don’t feel like it.

But where is the balance? How do we know when to fight and struggle, and when to just accept the way things are? I’m thinking specifically of our house situation. A few years ago we tried so hard to get our house ready to sell. We found a house to buy. We aggressively marketed our house. We advertised, we had open houses, we talked to realtors… and in the end we got nowhere. So we took a break for a while to have a baby and recover from that. We also decided that we needed to remodel the kitchen to make the house more attractive to potential buyers. But now that our remodeling is almost done, the thought of trying again to sell our house is overwhelming to me. I know how much work is involved in getting our house on the market, and I also know that our effort might not get the desired results. And on top of everything else, I’m getting quite comfortable here at this house. I like it here. Oh sure, we’re crowded. And I don’t know where we’re going to put the next baby. And we still yearn for a house in the country. But I feel like I’m resigned to my fate. I accept my house. I’m not fighting it any more.

What should we be doing? Should we be working hard to make our dreams come true? Or should we just stop fighting and enjoy our life and accept it for what it is? I don’t know. What do you think?